Welcome to the November Carnival of Natural Parenting: What is natural parenting?
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our Carnival coincides with the launch of Natural Parents Network, a community of parents and parents-to-be who practice or are interested in attachment parenting and natural family living. Join us at Natural Parents Network to be informed, empowered, and inspired!
Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
To vaccinate or not to vaccinate, this is one of the most controversial decisions facing parents. Frustratingly, not only is it loaded with controversy; it is also so often accompanied with fear. When we hold our beautiful miracle in our arms suddenly the reality of what it means to make this choice weighs heavily on our shoulders. Those of us inclined toward the less travelled road called ‘natural parenting’, begin to research. We research the side effects of vaccinations; we research vaccine ingredients, their efficacy and the political agenda behind manufactured vaccines. Then, after countless hours spent digesting hundreds of facts, we make a bold choice to vaccinate or not based on our humble opinions on whether or not the benefits outweigh the risks or vice versa.
When my husband and I came to this point we made the decision to not vaccinate but our research had only just begun. We were nervous to sit passively back and simply not vaccinate. We needed something else, something that we could actively ‘do’ to support our children’s wellness. This steered our study in a surprisingly positive direction and we began to learn how effectively the body manages illness if given the correct tools.
One of the most useful questions to ask when tossing around the pros and cons of vaccinations is “how serious is the disease?” Vaccinations claim to provide immunity against myriad diseases that in fact are avoidable and manageable in a healthy child – a healthy child with a strong immune system. In our home, supporting the immune system has become our primary focus when it comes to maintaining wellness.
Strong natural immunity begins with gentle birth and long term breastfeeding. A child’s immune system is not developed until their second year (not fully developed until their 7th year). This is the reason why the World Health Organisation (WHO) recommends breastfeeding for at least two years. Considering the never ending health benefits for a breastfed baby, it is vitally important that a child breastfeed long term. Long term breastfeeding allows the immune system to develop naturally without compromises or setbacks.
When real food is introduced into a baby’s diet (and this needn’t happen as early as 6 months – this can happen whenever baby seems ready. Some sources recommend not to introduce solids until 10 months), diet becomes the next important factor for building a strong immune system. We are very selective about the food we eat. We have a ‘Real Foods / Traditional Foods’ diet with lots of raw dairy, free range organic meat and eggs, local, seasonal fruit and vegetables and sprouted, fermented grains. We do not eat processed foods, foods that come in packages or sugar. The preservatives, chemicals and sugars found in our modern western diets are severely damaging to the immune system. The immune system thrives on healthy real foods and is able to ward off illness easily and quickly when well fed.
Beyond breastfeeding and eating healthy foods we include natural healing into our routine of maintaining wellness and building natural immunity. I have thrown myself into studying natural healing and use herbs, homeopathy and acupressure to combat illness. We also regularly see a professional homeopath. Homeopathy works with the body ‘constitutionally’ by strengthening inherent weaknesses and building natural defences.
Supporting natural immunity does not mean that illness is always prevented, but neither do vaccinations promise this. A strong immune system, however, does insure that the body is best prepared to deal with illness when it occurs and is also able to ward off potential sickness before it settles in.
Our decision to support natural immunity over vaccination was not made light-heartedly; we think of it as one of the most important - and best - choices we have ever made. Our children are robust, lively and bright. They rarely fall ill with anything more than a common cold and even then, these instances are short and relatively stress free. We live full lives filled with travel, activity, animals and dirt. Holding the responsibility of our children’s health in our hands is a heavy task. I cannot imagine compromising their strengths by damaging their immune systems, be it through diet or vaccinations. Trusting in our health is fundamental to our happiness and maintaining wellness though strong immunity, is the cornerstone of our peace of mind.
Here are some excellent websites to further explore vaccinations and natural health:
The Informed Parent
Vaccine Awareness Network
Arnica Network
What Doctors Don't Tell You
Vaccination
Here are some excellent websites to further explore vaccinations and natural health:
The Informed Parent
Vaccine Awareness Network
Arnica Network
What Doctors Don't Tell You
Vaccination
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Stop by Natural Parents Network today to see excerpts from everyone's posts, and please visit a few to read more! Visit Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants. Three of the participants below will instead be featured on Natural Parents Network throughout the month, so check back at NPN!
This list will be updated by afternoon November 9 with all the carnival links. We've arranged it this month according to the categories of our NPN resource pages on "What Is Natural Parenting?"
Attachment/Responsive Parenting
Attachment/responsive parenting is generally considered to include the following (descriptions/lists are not exhaustive; please follow each link to learn more):- PREPARE FOR PREGNANCY, BIRTH, AND PARENTING:
- "Preparing for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting" — Sheryl at Little Snowflakes knows better now how to prepare for her second baby, focusing on attachment rather than nursery curtains. Watch for her post, which will be featured on Natural Parents Network on Tuesday, November 23. (@sheryljesin)
- "Begin at the Beginning" — Alison at BluebirdMama examines the first type of natural parenting she experienced: birthing at home. (@BluebirdMama)
- FEED WITH LOVE AND RESPECT:
- "Going With the {Tandem Milk} Flow" — Despite being told she would never be able to nurse her toddler through pregnancy, Jessika at Job Description: Mommy successfully nursed through her entire pregnancy, and she continues tandem nursing her two little ones fifteen months later! (@JobDescMommy)
- "Breastfeeding with Love and Respect" — Resisting the pressure to give up, breastfeeding was the way Dionna at NursingFreedom.org persisted in nourishing her son. (@NursingFreedom)
- "Why Should I Call It Extended?" — Amy at Toddler In Tow provides scientifically based research to support child-led weaning.
- RESPOND WITH SENSITIVITY:
- "Attachment Parenting Chose Us" — For a child who is born "sensitive," attachment parenting is more a way of life than a parenting "choice." Dionna at Code Name: Mama shares her experiences. (@CodeNameMama)
- "Parenting in the Present" — Acacia at Be Present Mama parents naturally by being fully present.
- "Parenting With Heart" — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment parents naturally because healthy attachments early in life help our little ones grow into healthy, functioning adults.
- USE NURTURING TOUCH:
- "Nurturing through touch" — Lauren at Hobo Mama finds that loving touch is a thread that runs through all her natural parenting practices. (@Hobo_Mama)
- ENSURE SAFE SLEEP:
- "Sometimes I Wish We Coslept" — Sheila at A Gift Universe has started to add cosleeping into her sleep routines and has found frequently unspoken benefits. Watch for her post, which will be featured on Natural Parents Network on Tuesday, November 30. (@agiftuniverse)
- PROVIDE CONSISTENT AND LOVING CARE:
- "Attachment Parenting . . . and Nanny Makes Three?" — When Jen at Grow with Graces first started interviewing nannies, she was looking for practicalities. After a few months with her first nanny, she's going to hire someone new, and this time, she'll make sure the nanny believes in AP principles. (@growwithgraces)
- "Do You Have This?" — For Rachael at The Variegated Life, natural parenting is about love and giving, rather than the alienation and longing present in so many in our Western culture. (@RachaelNevins)
- "What Natural Parenting Looks Like in Our Family" — Sybil at Musings of a Milk Maker shares what natural parenting is like as your little ones grow up.
- PRACTICE GENTLE/POSITIVE DISCIPLINE:
- "Unconditional Parenting" — The philosophy of Alfie Kohn resonates with Erin at Multiple Musings, who does not want to parent (or teach) using rewards and punishment. (@ErinLittle)
- STRIVE FOR BALANCE IN PERSONAL AND FAMILY LIFE:
- "Reducing Screen Time" — How does Mrs. H. at Fleeting Moments meaningfully connect with her kids every day? She turns off the TV.
- Also see our October Carnival all about finding balance!
Ecological Responsibility and Love of Nature
- "Healing Through Elimination Communication Part 1" — Amy at Innate Parenting explains how practicing elimination communication has helped her whole family gain awareness and healing in many areas of their lives. (@InnateWholeness)
- "Growing Out of Little Potties" — Stacy at Mama-Om is proud to be the "weird lady" who practices elimination communication with her babies. (@mama_om)
- "Let's Talk Diapers" — Lindsey at Mama Cum Laude started using cloth diapers because she felt they were a safer choice for her child; she stuck with them because they are convenient.
Holistic Health Practices
- "Supporting Natural Immunity" — If you have decided against the traditional vaccination schedule, Starr at Earth Mama has some helpful tips for strengthening your children's immune systems naturally.
Natural Learning
- "Acceptance as a Key to Natural Parenting" — Because Mrs. Green at Little Green Blog values accepting and responding to her daughter's needs, she was able to unravel the mystery of her daughter's learning "challenges." (@myzerowaste)
- "Let Them Look" — Betsy at Honest 2 Betsy makes time to look at, to touch, and to drool on the pinecones.
- "Why I Love Unschooling" — Unschooling isn't just about learning for Darcel at The Mahogany Way — it is a way of life. (@MahoganyWayMama)
- "Is He Already Behind?"Ever worry that your baby or toddler is behind the curve? Danielle at born.in.japan will reassure you about the many ways your little one is learning — naturally — every day. Watch for her post, which will be featured on Natural Parents Network on Tuesday, November 16. (@borninjp)
- "How to Help Your Child through Natural Learning" — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now offers tips on how to understand and nurture your child's natural learning style. (@DebChitwood)
Healthy Living
- "What 'Healthy Eating' Means to Me" — Wonder how a family of five makes healthy eating a priority? Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings shares some common sense tips. (@sunfrog)
- "What is Natural Parenting? Embracing Real Food" — Melodie at Breastfeeding Moms Unite! has always wanted to give her children the most nutritious foods possible: first through breastfeeding, and later through healthy, whole foods. (@bfmom)
Parenting Philosophies
- "Natural Parenting — Lazy Parenting" — To Olivia at Write About Birth, natural parenting isn't about a fixed set of ideals, but about what is instinctual. (@writeaboutbirth)
- "I'm not the most crunchy, but I'm still au naturel" — Jessica at This is Worthwhile follows her gut and parents with respect, and that's what feels natural to her. (@tisworthwhile)
- "Because Natural comes Naturally" — Breastfeeding, babywearing, cosleeping — Bess at mommakesmilk does these things because they feel right. (@MumtoEve)
- "What Do You Mean 'Natural Parenting'?" — Luschka at Diary of a First Child fell into natural parenting by listening to her baby and her own instincts. (@lvano)
- "One Little Change at a Time" — Ashley at Domestic Chaos made one small change at a time until "natural parenting" wasn't a punchline, but a way of life. (@ashleympoland)
- "WHY Attachment Parenting?" — While they might take some work to put into practice, Momma Jorje at A Slightly Crunchy Momma finds that all of the tenets of attachment parenting fit her family.
- "Yours, Respectfully" — For Kellie at Our Mindful Life, natural parenting is about being respectful: to yourself, your children, and your surroundings.
- "The Natural Parenting Label" — Michelle at The Parent Vortex explains that natural parenting is a mindset, not a set of specific choices or a few fancy acronyms. (@TheParentVortex)
- "When Our Children Are Grown" — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children parents naturally, because she is building a firm foundation for her children.
- "What is Natural Parenting to a Witch Mom?" — Lily at Witch Mom has planned out what she wants for her son, from health to socialization to interactions with the natural world. (@lilyshahar)
- "Attachment Parenting and Our Family" — Semi-crunchy Mama at Adventures in Mommyhood takes us through the way the Baby Bs have transformed their family of four. (@crunchymamato2)
- "I'm a Mama...Naturally" — Andrea!!! at Ella-Bean & Co. didn't intend to parent naturally, but it happened by instinct.
Political and Social Activism
- "A Private Matter" — Amy at Anktangle, who is a Registered Nurse, describes her encounters with circumcision in a medical environment and why they guided her decision to leave her own baby boy intact. (@anktangle)
- "Natural Parenting, Following Our Instincts, and Keeping Our Son Intact" — Kelly at KellyNaturally went against the tide and refused to circumcise her son. (@kellynaturally)
- "Relying on Kindness" — Sure, Navelgazing Bajan at Navelgazing wants her son to be kind — but kindness is not enough. (@BlkWmnDoBF)
12 comments:
What practical (and relatively easy!) advice for those of us who choose not to follow the traditional vaccination schedule! I'd love for you to do a series on homeopathy for healthy families, it's something that I haven't had the time or energy to research much myself!
Well said! It seems to me that much of parenting is about weighing risks: are the possible effects of the disease more harmful than the possible effects of the vaccine? We all have to make our own decisions about these things. I think a lot of people think that those who chose not to vaccinate do so without much thought, but it's so obvious that that is not the case. I love all your suggestions about how to support natural immunity!
I agree with PP, speaking with other parents, it is much easier to go along with the mainstream vaccination schedule rather than choosing to delay/selective/or not vax. I too would like to look into alternative health methods such as homeopathy and acupuncture/acupressure. I'm pretty sure that the bird poop she put into her mouth probably boosted her immune system too...but that's probably not a method I want to rely on! (HA! and yes, it was gross.)
Wonderful and wise. I really appreciate your focus, both in the post and in life, on creating a healthy body with a strong immune system that is ready to take on illness or disease. That is an extremely important factor and one that is sometimes overlooked by non-vaccinating families.
Thanks for sharing your very positive approach! I arrived at the same decision - not to vaccinate - and we also breastfeed for a long time and try to eat healthy, wholesome foods. I do worry sometimes, but our country of residence was bombed a decade ago, and depleted uranium was used. That obviously spoils the soil!
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Breastfeeding for as long as your children need is SO important! I breastfed my 1st for 4 years, my 2nd child for 3. We did vaccinate our children, but on an alternative/delayed schedule. It's always good to see another perspective on the vaccine issue!
There is tremendous value in understanding that food from its real source - mothers milk to whole grains and free ranging chicken eggs - is going to be the most beneficial for our consumption. We are what we put into our bodies, no doubt.
For us, we also are certain to get plenty of sunshine - working with the sun, instead of against her - goes a long way in preventing illness. Vitamin D deficiency leads to a lot of problems & so many people are deficient.
We eat hardly any packaged food, and I've been trying to replace what we do eat with real foods and food made from scratch. Learning to bake my own bread is a next step. And I've also heard a rumor that raw milk can be had here in Brooklyn, if I can find where to get it. I've tended to think of eating raw foods as just generally "healthful" or "nutritious" without thinking much about what those words mean. I had not thought before of the connection between healthful food and a strong immune system. Thank you!
Sorry — where I wrote "raw foods" above I meant "real foods." My sleepy brain!
Love this post. We also decided not to vaccinate and we try to foster a strong immune system. Our twins breastfed until just over 3 years. We try to feed them organic, real foods, but alas, sometimes, our fast paced life takes over and they get too much sugar, salt or processed stuff. But, we try.
Wow, what a fascinating perspective. We also have not vaccinated and are still conflicted about our choice so far — I like your idea of supporting natural immunity as something we can do to help ensure our children's health (and our own). I love how you start with birth and breastfeeding as the beginning of it all. We've got the breastfeeding thing down! :) Now I just need to work on the diet some more… And I'd love to look more into homeopathy, so I second Dionna's suggestion of a series. Thanks for the inspiration.
I stumbled upon your blog through the Magic Onions and I am loving it!
This is a very brave post for you to write. Well done! Here, in Australia, we have the highest vaccination rate in the world and parents (and the doctors) get money from the government for vaccinating their children. I keep my opinions about vaccinations (which are the same as yours) to myself, because people get very upset and think that you are putting your child and the rest of the community at risk by not vaccinating.
I have done the research, but mostly, my gut is telling me that it is not necessary.
Well done on a beautiful blog!
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